What Do You Want?
That’s one of the most important questions. The tandem questions of ‘who are you’ and ‘what do you want’ can guide your life. Once you can begin to answer them. The key word there is begin. They are not answered once. You will keep asking and answering them through a lifetime.
For me and for now, it’s …
- Interesting friends and companions.
- An opportunity to learn, every day.
- A resilient, healthy, and loving family.
- To provide uplift to the lives I touch.
- Solitude and quiet to read, think, and reflect.
- Time in the wilderness.
- To see the aurora, the thunderstorm, the Milky Way against a star-filled sky.
- Love, given and received.
- Acceptance and forgiveness, mostly from my self.
- Quality time with my wife
- Health and wisdom. Wealth optional.
- Fun and memorable travels.
- Capability, connection, and contribution.
- To cultivate gratitude, mindfulness, character, and virtue.
- To do my life’s work. Whatever that may be.
- The creative spark to become a fire.
- To be better than I was.
- Laughter and good conversation.
- To leave the world better than I found it.
- A good life and a good death.
Two more things that should be on everyone’s list. First, to remember what is not on the list. In the above that would be things like extraneous possessions. Vices. Caring too much about the news, social media, or the petty and inconsequential agendas of other people. This tells me where I should not dwell. Time spent here is time not given to what is on the list. Second, to accept that you might not get everything that you want. It is the striving that matters.
So. What do you want?